Assertiveness
When you are feeling happy and contented, your relationships are working well, the sun is shining, the sky is blue and life isn't bad; who needs assertiveness training?
But how do you react when people:
- Shout at you.
- Blame you for something you didn't do.
- Interrupt you.
- Make comments to put you down.
- Keep you waiting or turn up late.
- Give you bad customer service.
The Perception of Assertiveness
Assertiveness receives a lot of publicity, some good, some bad, and some misleading; so many people have very mixed feelings about it. However, your ability to assert yourself affects everything else you do and don't do, from day to day activities to major life decisions. So it's important to understand what it is and what you want to do with it.
Assertiveness is about dealing with your feelings. Being assertive is simply the ability to say we we want or need, or what we don't. It is being able to communicate appropriately in a direct, open and honest way.
Being assertive doesn't guarantee you a particular outcome but if the process is followed it usually makes you feel that speaking up for yourself and expressing your feelings was worthwhile.
By behaving assertively
- Your self confidence increases.
- You are properly understood.
- Other people know exactly where they are with you.
- You are more open to receiving feedback.
- Your relationships are based on reality rather than illusion.
- You stand a better chance of getting what you want.
- You feel better for expressing your feelings.
- You have few situations that are unresolved.
- Even if you do not resolve a situation, you feel better for having tried.